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“I am feeling so good. Really inspired and
enthusiastic. Today, I am going to be right on target—going
to hit the bull’s eye”… sounds like the “Most
Wanted State of Being” for each one of us. Powered by such
energy, one just cuts through the difficulties and naturally succeeds.
The benefits of this state are universal. Whatever you take on,
whether difficult or something you have been hesitant to take on
for some time, things move forward. You feel good and people around
you are inspired too.
Bubble or boon
 The
immediate concern is about how long will it last? Given the near
ecstatic experience, one would like it to be a permanent feature.
However, when the enthusiasm disappears, it happens instantly just
like the bubble burst. Is it possible to be always inspired, enthusiastic
and char-ged up with energy; produce superlative results; feel great
and live happily ever after? Yes it is! Let’s see what it takes
one to live at this level?
Locate the source
Let’s speculate. What infuses this energy?
Sometimes we know and sometimes we don’t. For instance, often
when everything is breaking down and you should be feeling in the
dumps, you find yourself feeling kicked up and alive. You search
for a reason and you don’t find one. At other times, we can
see the connection between the happening and the experience of positive
or negative energy.
The fundamental source is related to our expectations.
Whenever your expectations are met, like finishing a task, job or
project; receiving appreciation, reward, tangible or intangible;
having positive thoughts, a brilliant idea; expressing yourself
through words, painting, actions or another form, positive energy
is generated.
The reverse is also true. The opposites like
uncomplimentary communications, failure—negative thoughts generate
negative energy and one feels down, off mood, bored, drained, lazy
and withdrawn, etc. Extended over long periods, the downward movement
could become unbearably painful.
As one goes through the day, one receives both
positive and negative energy leading to ups and down and sometimes
pushing one to extremes. The important thing to observe is that
most of us, most of the time, seem to be “helpless observers.”
When people are at the happy extreme, they celebrate and when at
the painful extreme suffer and wait for it to pass.
The One-Two-Three strategy
To maintain high levels of energy, this is a
powerful approach:
- Give up the negative energies.
- Multiply the positive energies.
- Transform surroundings into a positive environment.
Besides our own thoughts, we respond to other
communications, actions and ways of being. Also, events occurring
around us impact our energies. The common misconception is that
the inputs are negative or positive. Actually it is our response,
generated as per our program, that is positive or negative. Consider
a sentence “you are very clever”. This could be received
as a complement or as an accusation for manipulation. The words
are the same. Cancellation of a meeting could come across to you
as good news because you did not want to get into an argument or
as bad news because it is loss of an opportunity to get even with
him. Either way it’s your response that determines the impact
on your energy levels.
It is important to realise that irrespective
of the source of inputs, the focal point is the same—“your
response.” Simply put “if you can manage your response
as always positive, your energy levels will always remain high.”
Step 1. Watch yourself: Don’t worry about
the inputs. Just focus on the response. Is your experience positive
or negative? If it’s positive, say “good good.” If
negative, terminate it. The idea is to cut off the negative responses
like getting upset, anger or whatever is causing the negative energy.
Just like the film director says ‘cut’ and the scene is
cut. The logic is simple. Your mind follows your instructions. If
the response pops up again, repeat. This will stop the drain.
Step 2. Destroy the source: Negative energies
are generated when the happening does not match the expectation.
When a software release date, for instance, is not met, ‘the
fact’ is you wanted to meet the deadline and it is not met.
That it happened because others did not co-operate, I am not capable
enough, the system always crashes near my deadlines, the time allotted
was not enough, etc, are ‘stories’. These may be true
but the thing is when you blame these reasons as responsible for
failure to meet the deadline, you give away control. Results cannot
occur unless you set aside the reasons and take charge. Because
‘the fact’ is that you took on to produce the result by
managing actions as also the obstacles. The moment you separate
‘the fact’ from the ‘stories’ and take charge,
you would have destroyed the source of negative energy. Instantly,
you will be positively charged, experience power and will yearn
for action.
Step 3. Get back on the destination path: Re-declare
your commitment to play 100 percent for your goal. That you will
find a way around the obstacles but will not give up. This action
will put you back powerfully on the path to your destination.
Two years ago, when there was a crash in the
IT Industry, I talked to hundreds of people who had lost their jobs.
The fact was that each one wanted the pay package, perks and the
stock options to continue to the upward spiral. What happened was
‘no job’. Big mismatch. Lots of ‘stories’ were
loudly circulating. “Most unfair”…. “Act of
God”…“How can I get married, pay
back loan on my house, I am finished”… “I did not
hear people saying Okay this has happened. I am somehow going to
get myself a job—maybe even better than before. I am not going
to let these stories get me down.” The few that did, quickly
moved on.
If you check your life for breakdowns, you will
find that you too, perhaps unconsciously, went through the above
steps. Generally people take time, sometimes days, weeks, months
and years before separating the ‘stories’ from ‘the
facts’, and getting back in action.
Now that you know it as technology you can go
through the steps much earlier and save your self the suffering
and be back in high-energy levels, not at mercy of circumstances
but by strategic actions.
Positive energy generator
Become a positive energy generator. This will
require certain habits to be cultivated. These may not be new but
these guarantee success. If you know them and did not implement
so far. Now is the time. Consciously, try for a month and these
will get internalised as habits.
- Tell the truth—do what you say and say
what you do: This is most important. Most people use nice reasons
to justify the lies. Successful people learn how to tell the truth
without hurting people. It takes some effort to practice.
Truth multiplies the energy and you experience
freedom and enjoy aliveness. You have experienced it and don’t
need any proof. Unfortunately, people ignore the fact that when
one tells lies, the listener knows it’s a lie so there is no
gain, only drain.
- Bad mouthing people behind their back will
only damage you not them. When we tolerate, we begin to lose enthusiasm.
Sooner or later we burst out—generally onto the wrong person.
Use your generosity. Be a King or a Queen and
forgive people, not because their actions deserve forgiveness but
because you are generous and kind hearted. In the process you will
keep bouncing back to positivity.
- Appreciation does not cost: Be generous with
yourself and others. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect.
There is always something to appreciate—at least the good
intentions. Use your creativity to interpret everything positively.
- Create a positive ambience: Music, photographs,
quotes, mementoes signifying wins.
- Support others to be positive: Avoid negative
people. It’s not worthwhile to show your bravado “it
does not make any difference to me.” It will drain you. Just
keep away.
The basic fundamental is—Speak positive.
Act positive. Be positive.
Enjoy energising yourself, rather than waiting
for circumstances to boost you. Keep sharing. In the next episode,
we work on “addressing anger.”
A D Narula has a passion for transforming lives.
Over last three decades he has been associated with 200 companies
and touched the lives of 25,000 people through his programmes.
E-mail: ad4gen@hotmail.com
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